Its true.....Its true that the world is divided into two categories....there are the people who do not believe in psychics, and the people who do NOT believe in psychics...
Two days ago, I was one of them....
I was standing in the aisles assisting and and greeting passengers during the boarding of Flight number 30 from NYC-Moscow and looking dashing might I add in my Uniform that showed what is true and plump and clinged around my curvy body; when.....
A man about 5'4'' came up to me, smiled, and said "You have two mixed bloods in you." I thought "hmmm, this guys good.." though at the same time I thought "ok wait, ANY well-traveled person could guess that I have mixed features for the OBVIOUS reasons."
And just when I thought I was entering the safety zone....BAM...he came up to me and said "You have a very hidden energy inside you..."
I was intrigued.. I told him that he was quite smart for observing that and he told me that he had practice from the last 17 years...
I had just discovered a rare breed. A BLOND jew with a yamakah (sp?) who practiced kabalah, and was a (wait for it) PSYCHIC! wow...
I told him that I would love to have an oppurtunity to talk to him further after takeoff and the dinner service as I was busy during boarding at the moment. He smiled, shook my hand, held it for a little longer than a person should while shaking hands, and let it go..
hit FF on your remote please so we can fast forward to where he came back to the aft galley to talk to me after the dinner service and after I swayed around the whole aircraft with the duty free boutique saying "duty free, DO ME free" at certain times because I knew most of these Russians onboard didnt speak a word of English. :-D And to tell u the truth, im not really crazy about these Russians. They reek of B.O and are kind of rude... oh gosh, this reminds me of the time when I went to the bar on top of the GAP in downtown with Sam Jones and this old cigar breathed guy tried to pick me up and take me home...-VOMITS-
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaanywaaaaaaaaaay, so pushing play to where we fast forwarded to... SO, this guy whose name I later learned was Daniel, started by telling me things about my childhood which were all true... (as creepy as it sounds)
He said that my mom ALWAYS wanted a girl, how my childhood until 5 was great, average from 5 until 15, and then it all went downhill from there until I was 18 and then I gained a freedom like no other.
The freedom being when I moved out of my parents after coming out and being a new, and carefree me... (I was in complete shock)
I then had to go on my rest break so I bid him farewell and planned to continue after I woke up.
Though after my rest break he was asleep and I decided not to disturb. Though secretly, I was so afraid that he was going to tell me something I was not going to like and would haunt me forever....
It was all well until right before landing, he came up to me again and said..."The thing you are wondering...the thing you have been meaning to ask me...If you will ever find true love...its not going to happen for you...itll be very hard if not impossible.."
I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. A sudden jolt of cold air came rushing through me as I got goose bumps..
He left me standing there in the middle of a Boeing 767 wondering...Is this true? Will I never find true love? And Should I stop believing in what I've believed for 21 years....."I'll see...because if its meant to be, nothing or no one can and will between my dreams, and what I deserve.."
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Monday, August 18, 2008
Eight common dating myths.
I still think our biggest problem is that nobody knows what to say to each other in order to even get the date in the first place. So many gay guys (hate to say this; this is what I've seen) fit the stereotypes, and while that is fine, it doesn't mean that the rest of us are interested. Finding a gay guy who is masculine, healthy, takes care of himself, isn't a bitchy 14-year-old girl in a man's body, etc is almost impossible. From my experience, when you do find someone like this, he is either closeted, and the prospects of a lasting relationship with someone like this are going to be slim, or he has everyone else chasing after him too.
Don't get me wrong, I feel good about being gay. I just never expected that so many gay men seem to be exactly the same in terms of thought patterns, habits, tastes, mannerisms; the amount of same-ness is almost maddening! Our dating would be a lot more successful if there was a more exotic mix of men in the gay world rather than what is seen in urban (and non urban) gay America. It's as if we are all pieces of a puzzle but none of the pieces fit together...there are so many of us out there but we don't match up very well because of how strong and similar our personalities are. Too similar to be interested in each other, and too much alike to be physically attracted. Ugh.
1. Because you are shy, guys need to ask you out or make the first move.
When you want something to eat, you go out and get it. Being shy doesn't hold you back from eating and it shouldn't hold you back from dating. Don't confuse being shy with being scared of rejection -- and you are not alone in this fear.
Dating is a risk. It could work out or it couldn't. The only way to know is to give it a chance. Don't be afraid to take action. If you don't speak up, you won't get a date. If you do speak up, you now have the chance of him or her saying yes.
2. If you pay for dinner, you should get sex.
Unless you are dating an escort, sex does not come with the meal. A date is an opportunity to get to know each other and see if there is chemistry. Paying for dinner doesn't even guarantee you a second date.
3. Taking phone calls and answering text messages is OK on a date.
It is 2008 and we are all well-connected to the world. We receive phone calls, text messages, pictures, email and can surf the web all on our phones. It does not mean we are allowed to do it on a date. It is just plain rude.
You can give up all the technology for a few hours to enjoy a date and have a real conversation in person. Be respectful and present in your date; you at least owe your date that.
4. You should wait three days before you call for a second date.
Do you wait three days to tell an employer you are going to accept the job? No, because the job may not be available if you wait. It's the same thing with dating.
If you want a second date, call and plan it out. You can even mention it at the end of the first date. Simply let him know you had a good time and that you're free this weekend to hang out again. It's a lot better than spending your weekend alone because you didn't ask.
5. The top pays for dinner.
Seriously? I have heard this many times from clients and friends. I'm telling you it's not true. Your sexual position has nothing to do with who pays. Dating manners say the person who planned the date is supposed to pay. I think it is always polite to offer to pay. It's just good manners.
6. We are gay, so we should go to a gay club or gay restaurant for our date.
We are not segregated within gay boundaries on our dates. We're not even locked into the typical dinner-and-movie date. Think unconventionally when setting up your date. Why not take a cooking class together? How about going to zoo or aquarium? Not only do unconventional dates create better experiences, but they help reduce the awkwardness a candlelight dinner can cause.
7. You shouldn't have sex on the first date.
You are both adults and can choose what to do on your date. There is no proof that waiting to have sex or jumping right into bed with body paints creates successful couples. It's up to the both of you and your comfort level.
I'll just warn you: Sex on a first date does not guarantee you a second date and, as I said before, it doesn't come with a free meal.
8. Because you are both guys, you shouldn't open the door for him.
Chivalry is not dead. Regardless if you are both guys or girls, you still want to be polite and have manners. Saying "please" and "thank you," opening doors and saying "bless you" when your date sneezes are just ways to show you're a gentleman and respectful. Plus you will make Mom very proud of your behavior.
There isn't a guaranteed solution to a successful date. A major part of dating is just plain chemistry. Stop trying to play by your friends' "rules" and make your own as you go along. You know what is best for you.
I would love to hear your dating "rule" myths. Add your personal myths and why they are not true
Seriously, Cut the BUll shit, stop playing hard to get, Bottom, dont play the Bottom cards, Tops, be understanding and sensitive and dont get drunk on the phone while talking to someone you are talking to for the first goddamn time!
Don't get me wrong, I feel good about being gay. I just never expected that so many gay men seem to be exactly the same in terms of thought patterns, habits, tastes, mannerisms; the amount of same-ness is almost maddening! Our dating would be a lot more successful if there was a more exotic mix of men in the gay world rather than what is seen in urban (and non urban) gay America. It's as if we are all pieces of a puzzle but none of the pieces fit together...there are so many of us out there but we don't match up very well because of how strong and similar our personalities are. Too similar to be interested in each other, and too much alike to be physically attracted. Ugh.
1. Because you are shy, guys need to ask you out or make the first move.
When you want something to eat, you go out and get it. Being shy doesn't hold you back from eating and it shouldn't hold you back from dating. Don't confuse being shy with being scared of rejection -- and you are not alone in this fear.
Dating is a risk. It could work out or it couldn't. The only way to know is to give it a chance. Don't be afraid to take action. If you don't speak up, you won't get a date. If you do speak up, you now have the chance of him or her saying yes.
2. If you pay for dinner, you should get sex.
Unless you are dating an escort, sex does not come with the meal. A date is an opportunity to get to know each other and see if there is chemistry. Paying for dinner doesn't even guarantee you a second date.
3. Taking phone calls and answering text messages is OK on a date.
It is 2008 and we are all well-connected to the world. We receive phone calls, text messages, pictures, email and can surf the web all on our phones. It does not mean we are allowed to do it on a date. It is just plain rude.
You can give up all the technology for a few hours to enjoy a date and have a real conversation in person. Be respectful and present in your date; you at least owe your date that.
4. You should wait three days before you call for a second date.
Do you wait three days to tell an employer you are going to accept the job? No, because the job may not be available if you wait. It's the same thing with dating.
If you want a second date, call and plan it out. You can even mention it at the end of the first date. Simply let him know you had a good time and that you're free this weekend to hang out again. It's a lot better than spending your weekend alone because you didn't ask.
5. The top pays for dinner.
Seriously? I have heard this many times from clients and friends. I'm telling you it's not true. Your sexual position has nothing to do with who pays. Dating manners say the person who planned the date is supposed to pay. I think it is always polite to offer to pay. It's just good manners.
6. We are gay, so we should go to a gay club or gay restaurant for our date.
We are not segregated within gay boundaries on our dates. We're not even locked into the typical dinner-and-movie date. Think unconventionally when setting up your date. Why not take a cooking class together? How about going to zoo or aquarium? Not only do unconventional dates create better experiences, but they help reduce the awkwardness a candlelight dinner can cause.
7. You shouldn't have sex on the first date.
You are both adults and can choose what to do on your date. There is no proof that waiting to have sex or jumping right into bed with body paints creates successful couples. It's up to the both of you and your comfort level.
I'll just warn you: Sex on a first date does not guarantee you a second date and, as I said before, it doesn't come with a free meal.
8. Because you are both guys, you shouldn't open the door for him.
Chivalry is not dead. Regardless if you are both guys or girls, you still want to be polite and have manners. Saying "please" and "thank you," opening doors and saying "bless you" when your date sneezes are just ways to show you're a gentleman and respectful. Plus you will make Mom very proud of your behavior.
There isn't a guaranteed solution to a successful date. A major part of dating is just plain chemistry. Stop trying to play by your friends' "rules" and make your own as you go along. You know what is best for you.
I would love to hear your dating "rule" myths. Add your personal myths and why they are not true
Seriously, Cut the BUll shit, stop playing hard to get, Bottom, dont play the Bottom cards, Tops, be understanding and sensitive and dont get drunk on the phone while talking to someone you are talking to for the first goddamn time!
3 Musketeers?!?! 3's a Company!
As I layed Here on my bed with a Watermelon Tini and a Cosmo on the Way, I couldn't help but wonder....
Are 3-somes and Hook Ups the new "IT girl" of 2008?
it seemed like everywhere I went people were prancing around in 3's..At bars, Cafes, Huddled at Street Corners, on G.C, On C.G...
And Speaking of G.C (gay.com) Four months ago, I had slept with a Lawyer who I met on CG (Craigslist.) The encounter was HOT, STEAMY, and needless to say it ended with a VERY HAPPY ENDING ;-D
Four Months Later (today) I got an Im from on G.C saying hello. His eyes in the pic were wiped out by adobephoto shop (or so im assuming) and next to him was a guy. We chatted for a bit, and I immediately recognized him after he said he was a lawyer. His lips and smile all came SCRRREAMING back to me.... (isnt it amazing how a good BAM BAM BAM can be recalled at a drop of a hat even after a significant amount of time?)
I asked him if it was him and surely he said yessss....OBVIOUSLY, HE WOULD! He stated what "hot" time we had and so on....you know how tops get when they want to get into a bottoms pants..-UGH-...LOL!
I asked him if the guy next to him was his boyfriend...He said yes, and just then I felt a pang in my body saying, OMG, you slept with a married man! YOU SLUT! I told him I couldnt do it again due to the obvious reason and he was very persistent and said that him and his other half sleep around and tell each other about it....INFACT, his boyfriend told him to invite me for a 3 some after our first encounter.....
I declined having never done a 3 some before and also declined a one on one with Mister Hot Lawyer whose Muscled Arms I remember grabbing when...
So, here are some unanswered questions that I would love to get feedback on from my faithful readers around the world...
1. Should I sleep with him again?
2. Should I have a 3 some with The Lawyer and His oher half?
3. If I DO sleep with him again, should I feel guilty abou it? Because I WOULD!
Please Feel free to to comment anything other than the questions as well. :-)
Are 3-somes and Hook Ups the new "IT girl" of 2008?
it seemed like everywhere I went people were prancing around in 3's..At bars, Cafes, Huddled at Street Corners, on G.C, On C.G...
And Speaking of G.C (gay.com) Four months ago, I had slept with a Lawyer who I met on CG (Craigslist.) The encounter was HOT, STEAMY, and needless to say it ended with a VERY HAPPY ENDING ;-D
Four Months Later (today) I got an Im from on G.C saying hello. His eyes in the pic were wiped out by adobephoto shop (or so im assuming) and next to him was a guy. We chatted for a bit, and I immediately recognized him after he said he was a lawyer. His lips and smile all came SCRRREAMING back to me.... (isnt it amazing how a good BAM BAM BAM can be recalled at a drop of a hat even after a significant amount of time?)
I asked him if it was him and surely he said yessss....OBVIOUSLY, HE WOULD! He stated what "hot" time we had and so on....you know how tops get when they want to get into a bottoms pants..-UGH-...LOL!
I asked him if the guy next to him was his boyfriend...He said yes, and just then I felt a pang in my body saying, OMG, you slept with a married man! YOU SLUT! I told him I couldnt do it again due to the obvious reason and he was very persistent and said that him and his other half sleep around and tell each other about it....INFACT, his boyfriend told him to invite me for a 3 some after our first encounter.....
I declined having never done a 3 some before and also declined a one on one with Mister Hot Lawyer whose Muscled Arms I remember grabbing when...
So, here are some unanswered questions that I would love to get feedback on from my faithful readers around the world...
1. Should I sleep with him again?
2. Should I have a 3 some with The Lawyer and His oher half?
3. If I DO sleep with him again, should I feel guilty abou it? Because I WOULD!
Please Feel free to to comment anything other than the questions as well. :-)
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